Mama Bear: Amazing Moms/Single Moms

Welcome back to Mama Bear, Amazing Moms. In today’s blog, I want to take some time to encourage single moms as well as the dads that are no longer with them. Single moms face a unique challenge, especially if they have the kids a majority of the time. They not only face that long 98 hour work week that the study found the average mom experiences, but now they face doing that without a partner, without someone to step in when things get rocky with the kids.

Single moms often find themselves under more financial pressure. As a result they have a harder time finding breaks for themselves as well as finding time in each day to enjoy their children. Dads, this is where you can help even if you’re no longer with them. There are a number of things you can do as dads that will support your kids’ mom and thereby really give your kids the best shot at growing up in a healthy, positive, confident, successful manner.

Dads help your Ex 

As I’ve worked with families that have been through divorce, one thing that I’ve seen too often is parents not being able to let go of the past hurt, which can lead to ongoing bitterness and conflict between the parents. This doesn’t help a single mom do a great job and lead to kids growing up in a confident, healthy way. Dads, please stop and ask yourself if you’ve been providing your ex wife the support, the encouragement, and all the assistance you can provide, if not for her, for your kids. Do it for their development so that they grow up without the baggage, without the wounds that can take them down negative paths that none of us want to see our kids go down.

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Mama Bear: Amazing Moms (Releasing the Stress)

Hey, it’s great to be back with you again this week. I’m Jeff Schadt, the founder of Revive Family, and we’re continuing in the series, “Mama Bear, Amazing Moms. You moms really are amazing! My research has opened my eyes and even slapped me in the face a bit because moms work an average of 98.5 hours a week. It is no wonder so many moms are tired. Dads, this is why I hope you are listening to this series so you gain some insights into how you can come alongside your wife and help her get the breaks she needs.

In session one we talked about the risk of amazing moms being able to do it all. Putting in all those hours and emotional energy puts them at risk of a state of exhaustion.

In session two of this series, we addressed all the stress and pressure moms feel: the internal pressure they put on themselves, societal pressures, and the pressures moms tend to put on each other.

In this session we’re talking about how moms can take some of the stress and pressure off of themselves and raise content, happy, caring kids.

Last week in session two I mentioned a Harvard study that shows kids of working moms grow up just as happy as those with stay-at- home moms. Does that surprise you? It did me a bit because I’ve been raised in a culture that tells me that stay-at-home moms will have happier, more successful kids. I think this is part of the reason I found doing the research with 4,000 kids so challenging, because I had adopted a mindset that focused on the right and wrong in parenting. The kids blew me out of the water over and over again. One aspect of parenting that really challenged me was kids’ need for autonomy.

Autonomy is Important for Kids and Scary for Parents

 

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Mama Bear: Amazing Moms Dealing with Stress

Thank you for joining me this week for Revive Family’s Connecting Hearts Blog as we continue in the series “Mama Bear – Amazing Moms.”

Last week we looked at the study that shows that the average mom works about 98 hours a week or 2.5 full time jobs. In many ways, moms are stronger than dads. They use more words every day than men, they have more emotional bandwidth, and clearly they have stamina to put in these kinds of hours. So I tip my hat to you moms out there who are listening. Dads, listen, this series is important for you too!

If you missed last week’s kickoff, I’d encourage you to go back and read or listen to it on our site. It was a really important blog for both moms and dads because it talks about the impact all these hours can have on moms. Dads, in this first session we see why it’s really important for our moms to get breaks.

When Moms are not Happy, Families are not Happy

Moms are amazing! They serve as the center of our families while facing more pressure and time constraints than ever before. According to all the research, this leaves many moms feeling weary, maybe even isolated or on the verge of burnout. The sheer number of hours that moms work, the pressure to be ‘super mom’ and the pressure that moms tend to put on themselves can take the joy out of life. If moms aren’t happy, research shows that families aren’t happy.

This week we’re going to talk about dealing with the stress and isolation a mom can experience. Read More →

Mama Bear: What Makes Moms Amazing?

I’m Jeff Schadt, the founder of Revive Family and we’re going to begin this year by encouraging moms. In today’s busy, hectic world, where moms are working outside the home more often and the pace of kids’ activities has increased, moms find themselves facing more pressure than ever That is why, if you’re a dad who regularly listens to the radio program or podcast, I’d encourage you to stay tuned in. Read More →

Compassion 2020: A Family Resolution

Thanks for returning today. I’m Jeff Schadt, the founder of Revive Family. I hope you had a truly blessed, peaceful, and meaningful Christmas. If you didn’t read or listen to the Meaningful Christmas blog or Podcast series I would recommend it. It deals with the essential building blocks of healthy relationships, which build the platform for compassionate families.

Many of us set New Year’s resolutions; with New Year’s just a few days away, I would recommend that we adopt the goal of having compassionate families in 2020 or Compassion 2020!

Why Compassion?

It is clear from research as well as what we see happening in society that compassion is on the decline in our country especially among college students and our kids. We are losing our ability to relate to, understand and care about one another’s perspectives and feelings.

While compassion may not be something we talk about in parenting, I believe it’s absolutely essential to having the types of homes and kids that we desire. Before we go further, we need to understand the definition of compassion. Read More →

Last week in Part Two of my blog, A Meaningful Christmas, we began talking about the building blocks of a healthy relationship and how relationships are the only things that lead to fulfillment in life according to a 75 year Harvard study. Since the best gift we can give our kids is healthy relationships let’s step back into the building blocks of healthy relationships with Block 5 Transparency. Read More →

A Meaningful Christmas Loving Our Family – part 2

As we pursue A Meaningful Christmas, we talked last week about how giving, sharing, and gratefulness impact how we’re feeling, our outlook on life, and even our health. Celebrating Jesus birth is a great time to give, share and be grateful for the blessings that we’ve received. Doing this as a family can make a real difference. Harvard University conducted a seventy-five year study into what leads to true fulfillment in life. It concluded that fulfillment comes through relationships. If we are lonely or struggling to connect with the most important people in our lives, our family, it will be difficult to have a meaningful Christmas.

One of the challenges Deedee and I faced was understanding what led to healthy relationships. No one ever sat us down and taught us what the building blocks of a healthy relationship were nor did we have great models to follow.

It’s clear if we are to have a meaningful Christmas we need to enjoy our time both with God and together as a family, but how do we get there? How do we improve our relationships with our family members and with God? Read More →

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