One of the biggest issues families face today is the period of time we call adolescence. We fear this period and believe their will be issues no matter what we do. Revive Family’s research questions this cultural conclusion.
Recent brain research by National Geographic, Dr. Amen, and UCLA, identified significant changes that occur in the adolescent brain. Eighteen months prior to puberty or as early as age eight hormones that lead to puberty are released. These hormones usher in a phase of brain development where synapses are created between different areas of the brain in it’s back lobes. This leads to adaptive and flexible brains and is the reason youth begin to reevaluate their beliefs and question their parents. Their brains have new ways to analyze and combine thoughts, ideas, and information the forces period of reevaluation.
As these synapses develop electrical activity shifts from the front lobe of the brain decreasing the activity of front lobe of the brain. In the front lobe of the brain reside:
As a result they also become more oppositional because of diminished emotional regulation and consequence evaluation. This is the reason so many parents wonder what happened to my sweet kid?
The irony is that parent’s resort to consequences to try to keep their kids inline in a period where it is proven that consequence evaluation is inhibited. This helps explain why so many of today’s parents made mistakes when we were adolescents in spite of our parent’s rules and consequences.
Revive’s qualitative research found that the traditional parenting paradigms being taught today do not align well with changes occurring in our children’s brains. In fact these approaches actually trigger adolescents oppositional nature pushing them in the very direction we are seeking to prevent leading to further distance in the relationship. This results in the commonly accepted, but preventable, breakdown in the parent adolescent relationship that leads to our kids turning to peers and social media more than their parents for guidance.
Jeff Schadt took his research and set out to see different outcomes with his four children. After testing his concepts with hundreds of families Jeff developed Revive Family’s Influential Parenting that works with kids of all ages including: highly intelligent and strong willed children as well as appositionally minded adolescents.
This new parenting paradigm t has proven to bring about powerful changes in the relationship with children and adolescents that result in: less conflict, more cooperation, motivation, and more capable mature kids.
We encourage you to watch or read the transcripts from our Free Webinar “Parenting with Influence.”